Pride

Posted By Xin-min Lai on Jul 13, 2016 in mental game


Pride seems to be confused sometimes with arrogance, but in my experience, they’re wildly different. For me, pride is what keeps you moving forward.  So, what does pride mean to me?It’s holding yourself to the highest standard, no matter what other people expect of you.  It means if you know you aren’t putting out your best effort, whether you succeeded or not you commit yourself to improving, not accepting your mediocre.

You’re not dwelling on your failure, but you are constantly seeking to improve, and you’re brutally honest with what your best effort is and whether you actually put it out there or not.

What does that look like in fitness?

  1. Eat and sleep properly – this is the prep phase of any training plan.  If you had a shitty dietary week, and your performance suffers, you take note and then move forward, commit yourself to eating better so you can do better.
  2. Setting goals that push you (but are not impossible).  If you have pride in yourself and your abilities, your goals are going to be beyond what’s easy for you.  That means if you have no problem running a mile in 10 minutes, but you’ve never run faster, your next goal is 9 minutes.
  3. Don’t sell yourself short, and don’t pre-fail.  If you’ve never tried something before (but it’s something you want to achieve), don’t tell yourself you can’t do it until you’ve tried.  Just do it, and later if you miss the mark, set your goals and progress to get you there.  I’ve had clients who actually tell me “I can’t do a regular pushup” when they’ve never even tried, even when the modified ones are getting too easy.  When I ask them to just try one, the look on their faces is kind of amazing when they do it.  That’s pride.  You really don’t know until you try (within reason, obviously).
  4. Accept your best.  When you do well, own it (even if it’s in your own mind).  That success and pride is the foundation for your next achievement.
  5. Don’t make excuses for your failure or lackluster performance.  If you didn’t do everything you could, making up stories to make you feel better won’t set you up to achieve your goals.  Excuses just let you accept your sub-par as progress.

Don’t settle.  Handle your shit, and be proud of the person you see in the mirror when you do.

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